postgraduationhaze

I don't answer the phone when the OC is on. Judge me all you want, I need to give that my pure, undivided attention. Some people I believe find that gross, but I don't care. From whatever time the OC is on (currently from 8-9pm CT on Thursday nights), I am usually not available.

That being said, sometimes a fellow OC fan cannot afford that type of devotion, and this is what you then get:
Myspace comment to Will from me:

Bothersome OC moment from last night:
1. The incredibly ill fitting and incredibly fake looking hair extensions on Anna. Who would do that to their hair with a full forehead of bangs? Answer: no one. Those extensions were not fully realized. As if that makes her look ANY F_ING different than two years ago. Straight up FUG.
----------------- Reply from WILL -----------------
From: ($)
Date: Apr 21, 2006 3:54 PM

so i missed the first half, but what the hell happened.

all of a sudden they are at berkely? was that a visit?

where did anna and teressa come from. i am so confused. that's what i get for missing 30 minutes?

and kiki. come one. we saw that one coming from far away.

and tell me why vochek had the sound of music.

i am lost.

totally lost.

And the update which indicates how f-ing obsessed I am:

Lol. Oh my god. Okay, here's what you missed.

This was the whole "Newport kids go to their college's" weekend for that prospective student crap - lame. At the very beginning, as Kik's dropping off the boys, she sees Teresa and - gasp!- a baby that COULD BE RYANS. But she says nothing until she can no longer be silent and tells Ryan and he comes home...Sandy in his new Alpha male phase gets pissed at KiKi for telling him and Kiki accuses him of not caring about the family anymore, blah blah so then Ryan has to see Teresa to find out if the baby is his, but of course, she wasn't there but has a "nice" appartment and a nanny who calls her "Ms. Diaz." So then he is forced to go home and wait until Teresa comes to him which happens at the end and then we find out the baby is Eddie's ('that bum' as Teresa calls him).

Cut to Seth at Brown, trying to weasle his way in and he runs into - who ELSE - Anna! Who of course finds out that Seth is only there for Summer - BUT Summer sees Anna and Seth together and thinks they are dating and that is the reason Seth broke up with her...she never finds out be/c she doesn't listen. Seth of course gets rejected (again) from Brown and then gets into RISD be/c of the Atomic County comic book. Who just "gets in" to Rhode Island School of Design on a whim? Oh Seth. Anyway.

Anna's hair. So gross.

oh and volchuk got the sound of music be/c that was the reason Marissa gave him for why they couldn't be together - that she wanted the like "leisle" romance that she has in, you know, the middle of Nazi Austria. So at the end, Marissa goes back to Volchuk's to get her stuff and she sees that he got the sound of music and lays down presumably to spoon, maybe hoping that he can be her white knight.

ps) yeah, kiki with the white wine (again! something harder please). Totally predicted that. Boring.

And then:

I can rest easy now. thanks

i just want it to be happy like 90210 the college years. or saved by the bell the college years. i cant wait for season 4 already.

thanks.
This might be a sad existence but I feel like I need to soak up all the TV I can get, be/c come this fall, its all law school, all the time.

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from Human Rights Watch:
Abortion lessons from Latin America
By Marianne Mollmann, Human Rights Watch Researcher

Published in Los Angeles Times

"IT'S BEEN A LONG time since the days of back-alley abortions in the U.S. Perhaps that's why South Dakota Gov. Michael Rounds signed into law a ban against abortion in his state, with one narrow exception: protecting the life of the pregnant woman. Perhaps Rounds, who was only 19 when Roe vs. Wade was decided in 1973, doesn't remember what it was like to live in a country where women had no right to a safe, legal abortion.

Abortion is illegal in most countries in Central and South America, though the law waives criminal penalties for women who have abortions in certain circumstances: after rape or incest or if their life or health is endangered by the pregnancy. Over the last five years, I have interviewed dozens of women and girls who faced unwanted pregnancies and had abortions in Argentina, Mexico and Peru, all countries that limit access to contraceptives, sex education and abortion. The most common tale I heard was one of desperation.

"I don't have $10 a month for contraceptives — I need that money for milk for my children." "I didn't even want to have sex, let alone become pregnant." "If I have this child, I won't be able to take care of the others." "My father raped me." The list goes on.

My experience in Latin America carrie with it three clear lessons for South Dakota.

Lesson 1: Outlawing abortion does not stop women from having them. "What do I care if abortion is legal or illegal?" Marcela E. told me in 2004 in Argentina, where abortion generally is banned. "If I have to do it, I have to do it." The 32-year-old mother of three had a clandestine abortion after her husband raped her.

A community organizer in Argentina told me: "You will not believe what women end up putting in their uteruses to abort." I wish I didn't.

I have spoken to women who used knives, knitting needles, rubber tubes, even pieces of wood to pry open their uteruses. Some got access to abortive medicines that in theory lower the possibility of direct infection but that caused serious complications when they took them without medical assistance. Affluent women suffered fewer traumatic ordeals, often traveling to the U.S. for the procedure or sneaking off to upscale private Latin America clinics where, on paper, they had surgery for appendicitis.

Lesson 2: Providing limited exceptions to an abortion ban does little to improve access to safe abortions.

In reality very few, if any, women get such "non-punishable" abortions because there are no clear procedures. Fearing that they'd be charged with a crime, many of the women I interviewed who might have qualified for a legal abortion because they had been raped or because their health was endangered by the pregnancy did not dare to out themselves as potential abortion candidates. They went straight for the illegal and mostly unsafe back-alley abortions. A large proportion of maternal mortality in Latin America is caused directly by the consequences of such unsafe abortions.

Lesson 3: In Latin America, as everywhere else, the best way to stop abortion is to prevent unwanted pregnancies.

Women and girls act within the circumstances imposed upon them. In Latin America, where contraceptives are inaccessible and sex is stigmatized (through cultural expectations that they be virginal and uneducated about sex), unwanted pregnancies are more common; not surprisingly, there is a higher proportion of abortions to pregnancies than in, for example, the U.S. The simple fact is that women with unwanted or imposed pregnancies would have preferred not to need abortions.

South Dakota's abortion ban won't end or even cut down on abortions among the women in that state, and it probably will have disastrous effects on their health and lives. Laws and policies on abortion and contraceptives should not punish women and girls for doing what they feel they must to live with dignity."

Of course, I agree with this author but reading this made me remember what bothers me most about the entire abortion issue: sex as this morally challenging issue with women - and although it may present a moral dillemma to a woman who has the right to choose an abortion and is facing that decision, most women cannot say that abortion is an obvious option without that they would choose without issue without seeming like they are "bad." In society today, sex to women cannot be "just sex" be/c women can get pregnant and then once they do they must make the choice of "killing a baby" or becoming mothers which to some women is a far more horrible option than going through with a medical procedure. When will it become acceptable for women to have sex with a mentality that is the same as most men (I say most be/c no doubt there are some right wing conservative chrisitans who feel that their "seed" is God's hand or something and thus reserved for when the wedding bands are on and the circus wedding subsided) who have sex to have sex be/c it can bring you closer to someone with whom you care for but do not wish to marry (or in some state, cannot), or be/c it just feels good? Men tend to know that they can have sex without thinking of any reprucussion save the obvious STD issue. Why can't women just have sex without punishment? Threatening to take away - nay, taking away the option of abortion is punshiment for women who wish to have sexual relations freely, and although it is extreme I think of it as a punishment for women who are more autonomous and willing to exercise their sexuality however they damn well want to.

Latin America is a bit extreme when thinking about the cultural stigmas that women (hello Catholic countries) are expected to adhere to (virginal! uneducated! subservant! baby machines! mothers forever without option!), but really, how different is that than what the Governor of South Dakota was saying about South Dakota women when he signed that abhorrent bill into law? Not by much I think.

Sighs. I am so tired of feeling like women cannot escape their biology as a means in life or even as their end game in life. I hate it so much.

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This was sent to me by my friend Will today - this is why I love him. And his friends.

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